Infertility Led Us to Adoption
My husband and I feel honored to be Mom and Dad to 2 very precious daughters. We went through ten long, hard years of frustration and countless disappointments through infertility. We longed to be parents. I just couldn’t cry another tear!
God Gave Us Hope
We were involved in youth ministry with teenagers during this time. These teens meant a lot to us, and we had the privilege to point them to Christ, when many of them were walking through some really tough circumstances too. Relying on God’s plan for each of our lives gave us hope that only God can provide. When we told the teens that we started the adoption process, some of them begged us, “please let your kids see their mom and dad because they will always wonder. It helps them.”
We Chose Open Adoption
We adopted both daughters as infants, and we got to meet their biological family members when they were born. Adoption has grown our family because God has woven two birth families into our lives. As our daughters are growing up and asking questions, we understand what the teens in our youth group were trying to tell us. Adoptees will be curious about their biological families, and they will have questions.
Our Daughters Want to Know Their Stories
Our daughters are now 15 and 10 years old. They know they are adopted and they know they can ask us questions. From day 1, we placed framed photos of their birth families in each of their bedrooms. When they ask, we tell them with confidence, “your mom chose us to raise you. This was part of God’s plan for your lives.”
"They Wanted The Very Best For You"
I tell them about the days after they were born, leading up to the time they joined our family. I tell them how I felt a deep connection with both of their moms and how we shared tears and hugs at the hospital. My older daughter’s birth mom asked to put our daughter into her carseat in our car as we were preparing to take her home. She said, “I want to see her go home with you.” My husband and I, and her birth mom were so emotional on that day. I tell my daughter the truth, “she wanted you to always have a dad.” We tell our daughters that both of their birth moms have always wanted the very best for them, and we tell them how they made the tough decision of adoption out of love.
We Keep Sending Photos
We have kept in touch with both birth families over the years. It helps to answer our daughters’ questions, and for them to know how much they are loved, by God, by us and by their biological families. My older daughter’s biological grandpa says, “keep sending me photos!”
It's a Lifelong Journey For All Of Us
We hold our daughters “open-handed” because they belong to God, and we get to be their parents. They are His beautiful creations, and God loves them even more than we do! Adoption is a part of each of their stories. There are struggles and tough questions, and we remind them often of who they are in Christ. Our younger daughter’s birth mom was so excited to hear when she decided to get baptized. She said, “Thank you for pouring into her. So glad to see her growing up.” Adoption is a lifelong journey.
Adoption Connected Us to Our Daughters' Birth Families Forever
Adoption is walking through something you’ve never experienced before. But it connected 3 women so closely who didn’t know each other prior to adoption. We don’t worry about yesterday or tomorrow. We trust God as we live in the moment. It’s all up to you, God. Bring Heaven down.
Supporting Our Family Always
“Every time I call SOFA, you are so helpful in answering my questions, and you bring God into the conversation. That’s been hopeful and helpful. Having you guys there is comforting. God brings people into our lives that heal and minister.” ~Kim
