Anne Pierson of www.lovingandcaring.org has 40 years of hands-on experience, working with pregnant women and the fathers of their babies. She says, "you just have to know them." What does that mean exactly? Click here to listen to her radio interview where she demonstrates.
Take a minute and think about people who have come into your life, even if for a brief encounter, who made a lasting impression. I personally can think of two older males, one college-age woman and one nurse.
What did these four do to leave a lasting, positive impression in my life? Keep in mind, this is many years later. Each of them had one thing in common. They took the time to know me.
Each of the four people showed a genuine interest in me. They spent some time asking me questions... ABOUT ME. When I shared, they smiled with me. I got to share with them about stuff that I was into, whatever was important to me at the time. And, I knew they were listening because they remembered.
Talking to pregnant women is about building relationships with them like that.
Take time before a meeting to care for yourself. Settle your heart and mind. Express gratitude for the blessings in your life. Then, meet with her. Turn off your computer and your cell phone. Then, give her your time and attention. Tell her about yourself. Then ask her to tell you about herself.
Just talk and more importantly, just listen.......
We all crave the feeling of being important enough to have someone's undivided attention. It makes us feel important. When a pregnant woman seeks you out and wants to talk with you, she is looking for someone with whom she can talk to.
It's not about the pregnancy.... not at first. It's about relationship. Starting a relationship is asking a question of the other person such as "tell me about you." And then really listening so that you can remember what she said later.
That is what I remember about the 4 people in my life who made lasting impressions in my heart. These four I only knew for a short time period. But, I remember my contact with each of them vividly. Why? Because they made me feel important. They listened. They heard me. They didn't have to relate to me, but I knew that even for a brief time period, they wanted to know more about me. That's what matters.
Talking to women and the fathers of their children about adoption and pregnancy options is important to do. The best place to begin is simply by getting to know them as people first. Keep scheduling the next meeting with them. Let them know you are listening. You will be thinking and praying for them. You look forward to your next meeting. Ask them what is important to them.
Once a comfortable relationship is established, then talk about parenting choices which includes adoption. Share stories about adoption. If you don't know of any personally, find someone who does and share them. Make it personal. That is what the women will remember.
Anne Pierson of www.lovingandcaring.org appeared on www.fromthemedian.org , a nightly radio broadcast of Cleveland Right to Life that provides education and awareness about pro-life issues, including adoption. Click here to listen to Anne as she demonstrates how she talks with a pregnant woman for the first time.
Anne is such a gift. She has a way of making people feel comfortable as soon as you meet her. She provides training and education for pregnancy crisis centers, counselors who counsel pregnant women facing unplanned pregnancies, staff and volunteers of maternity homes and adoption agencies. Her organization is www.lovingandcaring.org